Now if you just lost your ex, and I feel for you and I know how hard
and hopeless it might seem right now. Every place you go, reminds you of
them. Every song you hear, reminds you of them. And it may seem hard to
even do the things you love doing because again it reminds you of them.
I know this all too well because I’ve been there. And it may seem
right now like everything’s crashing down on you. It may seem there’s no
hope, no escape and there’s no possible
way to ever get them back. But pay close attention
to the secrets I’m about to reveal to you, use them,
not only will you have a chance to get your ex back, but the odds will
be in your favor.
Right now, you’re hurt. You’re devastated,
you’ve panicked and you don’t know what to do. And because of that
you’re probably doing things that you wouldn’t normally do; like calling
their phones hundreds of times, you’re blasting them with hundreds or
thousands of text messages, you’re emailing them around the clock.
You’re nagging their friends, constantly asking about them or waiting outside their
house, or just being all around creepy or needy.
- And the truth is you are smothering them.
- And this is the worst possible thing that you can do.
- And you need to stop it right now.
People want what they can’t have; and the more push, the more you beg
and the more you plead, the more you end up pushing them away.
We want what we can’t have. We love to chase.
Guys we’re like dogs chasing a cat. And girls, you’re like cats chasing a mouse.
It’s one big giant circle, and everybody loves a good chase. But
everybody hates when things are easy, when they’re available, and when
there’s no chase involved. When there is no chase involved, we don’t
want them, because again we want what we can’t have. And the grass is
always greener.
And each time that you make yourself available to them.
- And each time you beg your ex to take you back.
- And each time that you tell them how much you miss them.
- And you need them and want them back in your life, well what
you’re doing is, is that you’re decreasing your value because now
you’re looking more and more desperate.
So
if you want to finally get your ex back in your arms, then the number
one biggest secret, and this is going to be a shocker for a lot of
people; the number one biggest secret is to stop talking to them;
as in close off all contact. Cut it off. Stop emailing them, stop
calling them, stop asking their friends about them.
Now I know this may go against every single thing you think right
now, and that’s exactly why it’s going to work. Because ask yourself
this: chances are you’ve already been trying to call your ex, you’ve
been texting them, you’ve been checking up on their Twitter or Facebook,
and going crazy.
Well how is that working out for you? My guess is, that it’s not exactly working, which is why you need a different approach.
If you recently
broke up with your ex, then she or he has very strong feelings for you
whether you want to admit it or not, it’s true.
- And that you’re nothing right now.
- And that they’ve forgotten everything.
- And don’t want you in their life, they remember the good times, the fun times and all the great memories.
We as people do not realize how much we loved
something until we lose it. We don’t realize how much we miss something
until we can’t see it. And by giving some time apart and cutting off
all communication, you are creating a sense of loss to them. And the
fear of loss is one of the most motivating factors in existence.
It’s true that absence does make the heart go fonder. And when your
ex feels like they’ve lost you, then the ball is now in your court,
which means you get to call the shots.
“He who cares the least always wins,” and it’s a hundred percent true.
Not just in relationships but in business and in life. Because if you
don’t care, you are willing to let go and lose it and the other person
isn’t, so that always gives you the upper hand. This gives you
control, if you want to get your ex back, and if you want to get
control of the situation, and get them chasing you, then you need to get
the ball in your court. You do this by being okay with the
break-up; tell them that the space is cool, or probably do you both some
benefit.
Try not to contact them. Give them three to four weeks and be cool with it.
Don't turn into a jerk and push them away, but stop initiating the
conversations with them. Stop calling them, stop testing them, stop
checking them on their Facebook; stop it.
Do this for at least three to four weeks. And wait for them to
contact you. Because when they contact you, the ball is now in your
court.
Now I’d be lying to you if I said that this was easy because the truth is, it’s not.
Chances
are you’re telling yourself, that if you stop contacting them or let
them go, then they’re probably going to move on and find someone else
and forget about you. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth
because when you are willing to let go and when you stop talking to
them, it instils a strong fear of loss.
- And not contacting her, it pushes her away.
- And this is going to make her wonder why.
- And we as humans hate not knowing the answers to questions; it drives us mad.
- And if you don’t believe me, go up to your friend, give them
a riddle and then just don’t even tell them the answer, watch what will
happen.
We as humans only
realize something of value when it’s gone.
Now you may be thinking that the key to winning back your love is to
tell them how much you really care and to do it as soon as possible
before it’s too late. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Because if you do that, it going to make you look extremely desperate
and extremely needy; undesirable. So right now, starting today, stay
away from your ex for the next few weeks. And if you work with them or
if you see them on a constant basis, and it’s hard to keep away, then
just keep the conversations light. Go about your business; stop
harassing them; stop bugging them. Give them some space, and give them
some time.
This is going to help your re-evaluate the situation and get rid of that panicky feeling , you will cool down and start thinking a little clearer.
Right now you’re probably desperate, you’re panicking,
you’re needy and it’s not attractive. So take some time apart, get some
space and this will help you get rid of that anxiety.
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